Geoffrey W. Sutton PhD, Psychology and Culture

Let it go? AI Image Geoffrey W. Sutton 2025 Don’t Just Let It Go—Let It Teach You First When ‘Let It Go’ Isn’t Enough Several weeks ago, I was in the middle of a heated pickleball match when a grumpy opponent blatantly cheated on a call. I grew up in a black-and-white moral world of “right or wrong,” so my first instinct was to call him out. But my partner just shrugged and said, “Let it go.” I hated that advice. I paused. Reflected. And, reluctantly, “I let it go.” My partner was right. But over the years I’ve noticed that friends and bosses love to tell anyone who’s been hurt or offended to “just let it go.” I agree when it’s minor—why sweat the small stuff?—but when the offense is serious, rushing past it can backfire. Before you hit “play on,” here’s why I recommend pressing pause on the big ones. Lessons Hidden in the Hurt Pain often signals that something needs correcting. If we instantly discard every slight, we risk missing lessons that protect us from repeating bad choices—whe...

  Exploring the Problem of Sexual Self-Control and the Suffering of their Victims   I Googled Ravi Z and before I typed his surname, 2,930,000 results appeared. The first two dealt with his problems of sexual self-control. His organization made a public statement following an investigation. In paragraph four they wrote:   To be victimized by unwanted sexual contact, advances, and behavior is horrendous. It is diametrically opposed to everything we believe about the value and dignity of every single person. We believe not only the women who made their allegations public but also additional women who had not previously made public allegations against Ravi but whose identities and stories were uncovered during the investigation. Tragically, witnesses described encounters including sexting, unwanted touching, spiritual abuse, and rape. We are devastated by what the investigation has shown and are filled with sorrow for the women who were hurt by this terrible abuse....

  The Washington riot of 1-6-2021 has had a disturbingly little impact on provoking people to think about the Union.   As I read through comments on Facebook and Twitter in response to the assault on Capitol Hill it is not surprising to see that the citizens of the union are as distrusting of each other now as they were before the election. The separation of the nation into Republican and Democratic tribes resulted in divisions running as deep as families and marriages or relationships. America is a religious nation and most identify as Christian, but faith did not matter as Christians took sides as they have in civil wars for centuries. President Abraham Lincoln saw this as plainly in 1865 as we see today when he said: "Both read the same Bible and pray to the same God,  and each invokes His aid against the other." This hatred of the other has cut deeply into the union and is constantly fueled by the rhetoric of doubt and contempt. I’ve seen this many times in marria...